People often reach out to me about their drinking and their personal relationship with alcohol. I’ve encouraged it. I’m outspoken about my sobriety and my alcoholism and I regularly post about it on my social media. I’ve said that if anyone needs help or is questioning their relationship to alcohol…

I keep wanting to say that, “It’s been a tough year.” It still feels like we are in the year of COVID. The year of a global pandemic that shut down our businesses, social lives, and schools. In reality, it’s been almost two years, and we are still reeling from…

How to open the mail and other adult responsibilities I still have trouble opening the mail, or answering the phone when it rings. Early in the program, my sponsor would have me pick up the phone and call three women a day. Call them on the phone. Like, how totally…

Living in the high desert during a global pandemic Did I manifest a global pandemic? I mean, I have manifested the exact right chair before, or the perfect dress from the thrift store. Normally, if I think about a thing often enough it appears. Whether good or bad. …

A story about letting go “Where do you go when you die while still living?” I had dramatically scribbled this into the Moleskine notebook my Mom dropped off at the nurse's station. I wrote about everything. What I ate, what Comstock was wearing, how I felt, the temperature outside (even…

A memoir, antics in the workplace and self-exploration Lemonade Stands and Lies My first job was hustling for a Nintendo. My parents were on the lower-middle-class side and they were young. Younger than seems appropriate looking back on our history as my thirty-eight-year-old self. When I was six and in desperate, indescribable need of…

How society has deemed it acceptable to get sloshed I don’t drink alcohol anymore. I quit drinking almost four years ago. When I tell people I don’t drink I get one of two reactions. Either it’s a nonissue and the person hardly cares when I tell them I don’t drink…

What we can learn from help, thanks and wow — “Gratitude begins in our hearts and then dovetails into behavior. It almost always makes you willing to be of service, which is where the joy resides. It means that you are willing to stop being such a jerk. When you are aware of all that has been given to you…

The dangers of dating in early recovery — There is a suggestion in twelve-step recovery programs in regards to dating. It’s a suggestion simply because there are no directives other than just don’t drink or use. Everything else is advice passed on from one sober person in recovery to the other. Stricly suggestive. Take it or leave it. …